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Preparing Your Loved Ones for When You’re Gone

May 06, 2022 Passing Down Family Wealth

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Cancer. One word that no one wants to hear.

As we sat around the dinner table, I clenched my husband’s hand. The cheerful sounds of the bustling restaurant faded into the background as we tried to comprehend what his parents just shared with us: my father-in-law had been diagnosed with Stage 4 Melanoma. It was fall of 2018, and we immediately knew our lives were going to change forever, and we would face a difficult road ahead.

Whether it’s cancer or something else, you or a loved one have likely walked a similar road. After all, the National Cancer Institute reports that 39.5% of people are diagnosed with cancer at some point in their life.

While many courageously fight through illness and are blessed with long lives ahead, a time like this brings urgency to fulfill certain obligations and prioritize what matters most.

In my father-in-law’s case, and that of so many others, the urgency was all about family. Larry dedicated his life to supporting and caring for his family—what would happen if he were gone? Splitting up the household duties left “finances” in his hands—or to be honest, in his head. Larry took control of the situation the best anyone could, carefully preparing our family for whatever might come. Here are the steps we took and lessons we learned, along with advice from our Private Wealth Advisors here at Monument…

Hold Regular Family Meetings

Each family has a different communication style, and ours tends to be very transparent, honest and blunt. I think this benefitted us greatly, as having scheduled calls and visits to discuss important updates, expectations and requests allowed us all to understand the situation at hand and support each other accordingly. I definitely recommend holding regular meetings to keep everyone in the loop and to discuss each topic below.

Set Up a Secure, Encrypted Password Manager

As we all know, login usernames and passwords can really be a nightmare. What helped us immensely is saving all login information mentioned below to a quality, encrypted password manager. You can then provide access to a family member or keep a “master password” in your safe. That way, someone you trust can step in to help with these administrative matters if and when you need a hand. We cannot tell you how helpful this has been.

Review Your Financials

Your Private Wealth Design should be updated with all major life events, including a health scare. Now is an important time to meet with your Wealth Advisor to ensure your financials are in order.

  • Assemble a list of all your financial accounts (bank accounts, investment accounts, etc.) and do the following:
    • Ensure your beneficiaries are up to date for each account.
    • Ensure there’s someone who can act on your behalf if needed – this goes hand in hand with reviewing your estate plan (more on that below).
    • Make a list of any recurring money movements, bills to be paid, bills on autopay, etc., in case someone needs to take this job over for you while you’re focusing on your health.
  • Once organized, hold a family meeting to discuss the current state of your financials. Designate a point person to step up if you need assistance and introduce your family to your Wealth Advisor to facilitate easy communication and reduce the anxiety of the unknown your loved ones may be feeling.

Review Your Pension, Life Insurance, Long-term Disability and Long-term Care Plans

Do you have a pension that gets passed on to your spouse? Are the named beneficiaries on any life insurance policies up-to-date and do those beneficiaries know how to file a claim?

  • Refresh yourself and your family on the details of your policies and how to access the benefits they are entitled to.
  • Depending on your diagnosis and treatment plan, you may be able to replace some of your income if you are unable to work for a period of time with benefits from a long-term disability policy. Sometimes these are provided as a benefit by your employer – if you don’t have a policy you’ve purchased on your own, talk to your benefits coordinator at work about your options.
  • Don’t forget about long-term disability policies you may have purchased in the past, or long-term care riders that may be part of a life insurance policy you own. Every situation is unique – it’s best to discuss any policies you have with your Wealth Advisor to determine if there are any benefits to claim.

 

Review Your Estate Plan

There isn’t a hard and fast rule, but most attorneys recommend that an estate plan be reviewed whenever a big life event occurs—so now would be the time to do this.

  • Meet with your Trust & Estate Attorney to make any updates to your estate plan and consider bringing your family along with you or making an introduction via email.
  • Be sure to communicate with your family who you have designated to make important decisions on your behalf and carry out each part of your estate plan. For example, Jessica L. Gibbs, CFP® recommends that if you are of sound mind and judgement you designate a Power of Attorney for making financial decisions and a Power of Attorney for making healthcare decisions on your behalf (these can be the same person). She also recommends that you designate a contingent or successor Power of Attorney in case your primary person is unable or unwilling to serve in the role.

Create an Action Plan for Your Loved Ones

Taking all the information above into account, my father-in-law worked with us to create an “action plan” to put all these policies in place, make sure bills are paid and keep everything running if he were not able to do it himself. Nothing is more daunting than the unknown, and all the legal and financial matters can be very difficult to handle when you’re bogged down by grief.

Ask yourself: What would happen if I were gone tomorrow?

  • Will my loved ones feel lost? In the dark? Confused? How can I help alleviate that feeling, and make the grieving process as easy as possible for them?
  • If you own a business: What will happen to my company? Is my successor prepared to step up or do I have a buyer identified?
  • Who will take over my “family duties”? Do they know how to do so?
  • Will my family be financially taken care of?
  • What will I leave behind as my legacy?

These questions are not meant to overwhelm, but just to get you thinking and to make sure you and your loved ones are prepared for anything.

 

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Meet with your Private Wealth Advisor and Trust & Estate Attorney often to keep your legal documents and financial accounts up-to-date, and to make sure you have a solid action plan in place for your loved ones.

Although our family was left heartbroken after a long battle with cancer, I will say we are grateful and appreciative of all my father-in-law did to help prepare and take care of our family. But most of all, we are grateful for all the time we spent together, never losing site of what mattered most to us: family.

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